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First video game?

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What was your first ever videogame?

Wow this takes me back as I was born in 1989 and I love to play computer games. My first game is a bit harder to pinpoint since I got a lot of games in my first computer that I had to share with my father. So those I recall the best on top of my mind are Galaga Deluxe, Pac-Man, Rick Dangerous and Settlers, a game that continues to follow me to this day. If that doesn’t count since I had to share them, then my first own game was Gran Turismo for PlayStation that I got in Christmas present for myself. I recall a funny story about the PlayStation, I had gotten a TV for my birthday present and my little brother’s birthday is a couple of months after me. My father came one day and told me to follow him. He had gotten a PlayStation for my brother and as he was not sure how it worked for sure he wanted to know if it was something we could use and of course I said yes. So PlayStation and gaming has always been part of my life.

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Observation about myself and energy

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Today is the 4th day I am back to work after 2 weeks where I worked from home and even that working from home should result in me being more fresh I feel it did the opposite. It was so bad I even needed extra sleep the 2nd day of the work-from-home period. I didn’t think much of it before this week when I returned to work and the 2nd day of work I was so tired again. I think that I have found out what is going on with me, I think that my body is using so much energy to handle my normal routines so if something really changes it then my body needs so much extra energy into the new routines even they might seem like routines that require less energy if you look at them separately. So I will keep that in mind and I just felt I wanted to share it as well.

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Stress… what to do?

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How do you manage stress?

Well there are 2 types of stress for me so it is a bit hard to say what to do about it.

1st kind

Because of my Asperger’s I often feels stressed if too many people around me, if too many things are demanded of me and so on for that I don’t feel that there is much help since if I get too much of it I just get sick in the end but I am trying hard to avoid it

2nd kind

The other is normal stress which I don’t feel I need to explain.

Fixes

As for fixes then these days I feel so much better when I can do a task offline instead of online, I also really enjoy being mindful in the way that I am frem trying to focus really hard on doing the tasks I get told to do and then for 5mins 4 times a day I am letting my mind do whatever it wants. Another thing 2-3 times a week I try to do mindfulness drawings which means I draw a picture with only 4 colors and give myself 1 hour to draw what comes into my mind and lastly then walks. So:

  1. Be offline when you can instead of always online
  2. 5mins of allowing your mind to be free 4 times a day
  3. 1 hour of drawing whatever comes to mind 3 times a week
  4. Walks when I can
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Favorite apps for my iPhone

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What are your favorite 5 apps on your phone?

In no particular order my favourite apps on my phone is:

Hearing test

A simple but awesome app that can help you test your hearing. I feel it is a must have if you are listening to music so many hours like me. Link

Motivation

A simple app that gives you quality notifications with quote’s of lots of different kinds depending on what subject(s) you pick. Link

One sec

The best app to block yourself from accessing apps or websites on your phone that you wanna limit. Mainly using it to block Reddit as I am using that way too much. Link

Slowly

The best way to make friends as you find friends that you can only read about and if you send them a message you learn it is a letter instead meaning it takes time for the message to arrive depending on how far the person is and you can only share pictures or voice messages if you both agree it is a good idea. Link

Wipr 2

The best way to block ads in safari, I don’t get why people ask for ublock when we have this but maybe I am missing something. Link

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Faith restored

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What’s a moment when a stranger completely restored your faith in people?

Well as a person who have been through a lot of injuries of different kinds, I think the one time that restored my faith was when I were walking on slippery ice on the way to school and I felt hard and hit a sign post. No one cared at first even I was clearly in pain, suddenly a pair of hands took hold of me and told me ‘you are going to make me miss my train but you seem like a person in need’ so he half carried me about 1 km to my school and made sure that someone was there to continue taking care of me. I offered to pay him a new ticket but he was like no thanks, I did this full aware of that.

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A step to becoming independent Part 2

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Step 2 in becoming in independent, find what your weaknesses and strengths. But remember that we are all different so my strengths can be your weaknesses and vice versa. (maybe this should have been step 1)

Weaknesses

Let us start with the weakness since there is actually strength in knowing your weaknesses. Like if I know I am scared of heights then I can prevent myself from getting up in high trees or similar. I know from myself that my weaknesses is:

Crowds: I don’t like to be in crowds and I would rather be in small groups of people since I get a feeling of being lost. It is also makes me overwhelmed.

Height: I don’t like high places if I am not feeling safe so I don’t mind climbing and what else but I need to feel safe to do it

Age reading: I have no clue of how old a person is unless they tell me, sure I have a clue if they are young, old and so on but I could talk to a 15 year old without knowing they are not 35 years

Body language reading: I am not good at this either so sometimes I say the wrong words because I didn’t read the body language correctly.

Naive: I am very naive and sees the best in people almost no matter what.

Strengths

Strengths is of cause things you are good at.

Details: I see a lot of details in things, just sometimes I am so focused on details that I forget the world around the detail.

Love learning: I love learning new things just sometimes a bit lazy to do it like I didn’t cook for a long time but now I am doing it again.

Grounded: I feel that being grounded is a good thing to have since it allows you to be there for all kinds of people (If I get to talk to them, hahaha)

Loyal: I feel I am very loyal to people and always try to get the best out with all kinds of people, no matter what.

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Favorite quote

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What’s a quote that perfectly describes your outlook on life?

Well I feel I living after my own quote these days which say ‘I would rather be weird than normal, as if we all were normal, life itself would be boring’ meaning that I know I am different from people both in general and because of my Asperger’s. I just don’t wanna change that I have Asperger’s plus as we all have our different qualities and ways while if we all did life the same way then life would be boring since nothing new. So that is my life style.

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A step to becoming independent Part 1

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I feel there is many ways that people can become independent from their parents or bad habits and one of those in my experience is cook because it shows how much you have grown in life plus you can conquer a lot of bad habits.

Shopping

The first part of cooking might sounds easy enough but you need to go shopping for those ingredients that you need to make the meal and already there you are get some good new habits.

  1. You learn to save money and handle your economy
  2. You learn to figure out what is healthy and what’s not since you can read what each product is made off compared to finished food

Making

The second part of cooking is creating the meal from those ingredients you just got and yes it gives good habits as well

  1. You learn how to use tools
  2. You learn how to follow instructions

Eating

The last part is the most obvious one but still it means a lot that you have been making and done the shopping yourself as you learn so much by this that you wouldn’t know if your parents just make the food or if you just get take away all the time

  1. Home cooked food taste how you want them to taste (mistakes can happen)
  2. You save money inc the long run since if you fx gets a pizza oven you can make any kind of pizza you want but you don’t have to pay for delivery. 50dkk around 7,5 US dollars, is what it costed last time I ordered from take away and my pizza oven costed 400dkk arond 60 US dollars so I just need to make 8 pizzas on it and those money also gets you lots of toppings.
  3. It gives you focus and calming energy to eat your own meals

So lots of good reasons to learn to cook on your own. Before I leave you, Bang Bang Shrimp, this is my favorite recipe to cook at the moment and it is so simple.

Enjoy your first step in becoming independent

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Style?

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What’s your home decoration style?

Well I love questions like this one as my style is nothing more than what I feel for that particular day in terms of everything. At the moment I have mood to make my entire apartment orange since I really have a thing for orange these days. Too bad we can’t change it in an instant. Otherwise I just want my home to feel comfortable and clean so not many wishes. I feel that houses, clothing and what else should be the owner’s favorite choice and not something people should force onto others.

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Asperger’s behaviors

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Today I wanna talk about some of the important behavoirs of Asperger’s that normal people might miss understand.

The missing eye contact

The first one I wanna talk about is the missing eye contact. I hate to look in peoples eyes because it feels very ucomfy for me which sometimes make people believe that I am not listening to them or ignorring them. Some people says we do it to hear and focus better but have not though of that I just personaly do not like it.

The direct speech

The second one is that we speak very directly and sometimes people gets hurt by it since I often do not see the point of trying to say it in a gentle way as I do not like to be unclear. I never plan to hurt people with my words as I have experinces enough pain in terms of bullies to continue doing that.

The honesty

The second and half one is the honesty. I feel this is connected to the second one because since we often say things direct then the words are often honest as well.

The repeating behavoir

The 3rd one, we are often repeating certain movements which can be everything from making wierd noises to do something with our fingers or feet. I used to repeat every sentenses twice to make sure that the person understood what I was trying to say and sometimes I am thinking that my skin and former nail biting is maybe part of it since I am having a real hard time to stop.

The ‘missing’ empati

The 4th one, we are often blame for not having any empati about what is going one but I often feel so hurt I do not know what to do with the feeling since we do not want to make it worse for the person experince it. I even had a period of my life were if I watched a guy get shot or hurt in a movie I could feel the pain in the same area. Plus we are not good with words so we often sounds a bit like robots as we will repeat what we have learned worked earlier since if we sometimes speak our mind people get more hurt. Other times we can start telling stories about similar situations that happened to the person to ourselves and people get angry since they feel that we ‘steal’ the show while really we just try to show we relate to the pain.

The alone time

The 5th one, we are often believed to be introverted but as I did some reason for the post I found out that many of the things that makes me feel introvered is not introverted it is just because I have so many problems with social interactions that I lose the energy for it so quickly that sometimes I just have do not have enough for an entire day. So sometimes I perfer alone time to recharge my energy or things would be too much for me.

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