What makes you nervous?
I am a bit shy and not the best at new things all the time especially if they can change a lot in my life so guess I am nervous for a lot of things but I am working on it since I am trying to get away from being safe behind a screen of some kind. Guess that is also one of my goals of becoming more offline.
How do you use social media?
Well this is a subject I feel divides people since these days there are governments trying to block it from kids and so on. I think it is a good idea to get a bit away from it at times but for an introvert person like me it is sometimes the only way I get to say anything because the world is too much. I mainly use it to write with friends but I am also using it to share my blog to a wider audience. I am also having the fight against doom scrolling but with the help of One Sec, I am doing better and my offline goal is making progress by the day.
Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.
I made the decision to learn myself how to meditate and yes I know that sometimes I am falling asleep and so on but it clears my mind and I plan to start focusing on it even more since it really helps me grow as a person. I will start focusing on it and do it 4 times a day for at least 5mins each. So I would say if you don‘t do meditation find at least 5mins for yourself as it really makes wonders.
Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you.
Well I know my blog is mainly about Asperger’s and such but I feel like I can talk about that forever so decided to pick another positive event. When I was around 5 and half year old I got first of 2 siblings and my parents was leaving me at home with my mom’s sister while trying to took to the hospital to give birth to him. When I woke up that morning my mom’s sister was already there and I had no clue of what was going on since she was there. Anyway the positive thing I wanna talk about happened later in the afternoon, I have always loved climbing trees, might be one of the reasons I love boulders so much these days, and my home had a row of some high Larch trees that together with some other trees. Well I went out to climb one of the tall larch tree while my mom’s sister hang up some clothes for drying. Normally I was not scared of heights so I was quickly to the top with tiny branches but for some reason I became that day and my mom’s sister was even more scared of heights so when I called for help she was not really fond of helping me but she had to do something since she was the only adult there. So she climbed up to get me even that she would never had done it in a million years if I was not there. She reached me and got me down so the day was saved but we made a deal that I should never climb that high again while she was the only one around. That is the end of this story and a short add to this story, while I was in kindergarten we had a very very very tall tree which I also happened to climb and the only reason the teachers didn’t call the fire department was because I climbed down quickly again and recently found out they never told my parents about it.
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
I hate answering questions about the future as I feel no one can predict the future and it is just a way to get worried about more stuff. I am trying to focus on my life these days since I just had some period with the breakdown but a good future for me would be very easy, as it would mean my job would be the same with more interesting assignments, maybe with someone in my life even that is not necessary but I wanna go Japan soon and maybe other awesome countries. But I hope for more peace in the world than war in the world in 10 years time.
What book could you read over and over again?
Well, normally I would have answered no books since I feel I have so many books that I wanna read these days and I don’t have enough time to read them all. But since I love games and 80’s a lot then I think I would read Ready Player One again and again. I love reading and at the moment I have read 2418 days in a row with a few cheat days because of scouts and what else.
Today I am finally feeling free from the black hole that has been pulling me out of my routine for the past 2 months so I think I am ready for the world once more. Sorry to those I have hurt during it as I never meant to be bad. I have no clue what happened or anything. At the moment I am still taking things slow so for now I am focused on better sleep by going to bed at 10pm and wake up at 6am while do some boulders 3 times a week plus some random walks but no more yoga or weightlifting for now. I will also return to my offline goal and mindfulness. Later I will return my focus on good homemade food and drink almost none soda. I might get bad days again but I have complete this time so I am certain I will beat it once again
Thanks for reading and have a good day
Jesper
What advice would you give to your teenage self?
Normally when answering this question I would explain him that ‘you have Asperger’s, Jesper’ but today I would give myself a bit more advice, I would tell myself that ‘being different is good even that it both have good days and bad days’. The reason I changed it a bit is because these days I am at the bad days but I had good days before, so I know there will be good days again, just need to hang on until then while I slowly recovering from whatever pulls me down.
Last time I wrote about adiction, focus mode and that I used to control my phone use. Today is the last part and I will write about the objects I use instead of focusing on my phone.
The first object I brought myself to try going offline was a calendar and it seems like a easy task for some people but for me then it was hard since I never had one before that was not online. I have tried a few apps as calendars on my phone like Tiimo (ADHD calendar app) and Fantastical to name a few but there was always something wrong so I ended up using the default app as I felt home there. My search made me recall an old app I had on my phone which is an app where you write everything down on some special paper in a book and then you can scan it to your phone. The app still excisted but had stopped selling the books for the writing so I went hunting again and found Bambook. Bambook had an awesome calendar so I had to have it and that too had the ability to scan my notes to my phone. For now I have not scanned much but I feel it is great to have the option plus the writting comes off with water meaning I can reuse it many times. I am still having a bit process of filling it out with the future plans so I can use it completely but just the feeling of writing something in writting instead of keyboard felt magical and I wanna do things again
The second object I got was a life planner which I bought together with the calendar since I felt I would need somewhere to plan my less digital life and other parts of my life. I have made 4 goals that I am trying to aim for this year and I will use the life planner to get there.
I am not sure if I missed it at first ort what happened but aftera few months of trying calendar and life planner I felt I wanted to get a better overview of my things so I went to bambook again and I have now a monthly view on m y freezer together with weekly mealplaner, to-dos and a small whiteboard. So now I am ready to complete my life one month a time while have in all in one place plus they have sticky notes as well so every major plan like my boulders or scouts can now just move without I have to rewrite every detail.
I will still use them online versions as backup while slowly moving more and more to the offline versions, so my phone, apple watch and other devices will be important tools and to abe able to contact the world but never be my entire life again.
Last time I wrote about screen time, one sec and forest that I used to control my phone use. Today I will write a bit about addiction since I have learned a bit about on myself.
Many apps these days send us millions of notifications to make us check them often and it is one of the things that keeps us at the phone, plus many of those notifications is streaks, meaning they try to make you access the app at least one time a day. I am working on myself to avoid those notications so my phone only will be used on the good stuff. There are in my opion 3 ways to avoid notifactions from annoying apps.
You can go inside settings for each app and remove notifications from the apps and that way avoid it more. But at least on iOS you have something else.
On iOS you can use something call focus modes which is a way to block certain notifications from appearing at certain times. I find it really helpful since once it is setup then things works very automatical and once the focus session is up your notifications will appear on your screen.
At the moment I am having normal, sleep, work, fitness, mindfulness, people, scouts and do not disturb. Each mode covers a certain aspect on my life since you can make as many you want and it is easy to switch between them. I highly recomend setting it up since it is an easy way to avoid certain notifications at certain periods of your life and there a lots of cool settings like block all people, some or none… decide if it is certain apps you wanna block or only those apps you wanna hear and other cool stuff.
Another thing you can do to avoid notifications is to delete apps as most apps is also able as websites meaning you can avoid the notifications for good and only access the website when you need it. I have done so with my reddit app so these days if I wanna go a reddit I have to open it on the website where one sec I talked about also works,
To make sure I use my phone for the good things I will look at my apps and focus modes at least once a month since there is no need to have lots of unecessary apps on your devices since it is better to have room for your pictures and such. This marks the end of part 2, let us see what my mind have in store for part 3.
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