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Favorite quote

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What’s a quote that perfectly describes your outlook on life?

Well I feel I living after my own quote these days which say ‘I would rather be weird than normal, as if we all were normal, life itself would be boring’ meaning that I know I am different from people both in general and because of my Asperger’s. I just don’t wanna change that I have Asperger’s plus as we all have our different qualities and ways while if we all did life the same way then life would be boring since nothing new. So that is my life style.

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A step to becoming independent Part 1

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I feel there is many ways that people can become independent from their parents or bad habits and one of those in my experience is cook because it shows how much you have grown in life plus you can conquer a lot of bad habits.

Shopping

The first part of cooking might sounds easy enough but you need to go shopping for those ingredients that you need to make the meal and already there you are get some good new habits.

  1. You learn to save money and handle your economy
  2. You learn to figure out what is healthy and what’s not since you can read what each product is made off compared to finished food

Making

The second part of cooking is creating the meal from those ingredients you just got and yes it gives good habits as well

  1. You learn how to use tools
  2. You learn how to follow instructions

Eating

The last part is the most obvious one but still it means a lot that you have been making and done the shopping yourself as you learn so much by this that you wouldn’t know if your parents just make the food or if you just get take away all the time

  1. Home cooked food taste how you want them to taste (mistakes can happen)
  2. You save money inc the long run since if you fx gets a pizza oven you can make any kind of pizza you want but you don’t have to pay for delivery. 50dkk around 7,5 US dollars, is what it costed last time I ordered from take away and my pizza oven costed 400dkk arond 60 US dollars so I just need to make 8 pizzas on it and those money also gets you lots of toppings.
  3. It gives you focus and calming energy to eat your own meals

So lots of good reasons to learn to cook on your own. Before I leave you, Bang Bang Shrimp, this is my favorite recipe to cook at the moment and it is so simple.

Enjoy your first step in becoming independent

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Style?

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What’s your home decoration style?

Well I love questions like this one as my style is nothing more than what I feel for that particular day in terms of everything. At the moment I have mood to make my entire apartment orange since I really have a thing for orange these days. Too bad we can’t change it in an instant. Otherwise I just want my home to feel comfortable and clean so not many wishes. I feel that houses, clothing and what else should be the owner’s favorite choice and not something people should force onto others.

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Asperger’s behaviors

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Today I wanna talk about some of the important behavoirs of Asperger’s that normal people might miss understand.

The missing eye contact

The first one I wanna talk about is the missing eye contact. I hate to look in peoples eyes because it feels very ucomfy for me which sometimes make people believe that I am not listening to them or ignorring them. Some people says we do it to hear and focus better but have not though of that I just personaly do not like it.

The direct speech

The second one is that we speak very directly and sometimes people gets hurt by it since I often do not see the point of trying to say it in a gentle way as I do not like to be unclear. I never plan to hurt people with my words as I have experinces enough pain in terms of bullies to continue doing that.

The honesty

The second and half one is the honesty. I feel this is connected to the second one because since we often say things direct then the words are often honest as well.

The repeating behavoir

The 3rd one, we are often repeating certain movements which can be everything from making wierd noises to do something with our fingers or feet. I used to repeat every sentenses twice to make sure that the person understood what I was trying to say and sometimes I am thinking that my skin and former nail biting is maybe part of it since I am having a real hard time to stop.

The ‘missing’ empati

The 4th one, we are often blame for not having any empati about what is going one but I often feel so hurt I do not know what to do with the feeling since we do not want to make it worse for the person experince it. I even had a period of my life were if I watched a guy get shot or hurt in a movie I could feel the pain in the same area. Plus we are not good with words so we often sounds a bit like robots as we will repeat what we have learned worked earlier since if we sometimes speak our mind people get more hurt. Other times we can start telling stories about similar situations that happened to the person to ourselves and people get angry since they feel that we ‘steal’ the show while really we just try to show we relate to the pain.

The alone time

The 5th one, we are often believed to be introverted but as I did some reason for the post I found out that many of the things that makes me feel introvered is not introverted it is just because I have so many problems with social interactions that I lose the energy for it so quickly that sometimes I just have do not have enough for an entire day. So sometimes I perfer alone time to recharge my energy or things would be too much for me.

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How have I grown?

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What is one way you have grown this year?

I feel that I have grown in the way that I had blackhole period in my life in the early period of this year which I have now conquered and grown that way. Of my happy growth I have made really good progress in a novel I have been trying to write for 20 years now.

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5 things I wish I knew earlier

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I am not sure if I have made this before but my mind is too tired to get other ideas at the moment so feel like I wanna do this. So without much more I wish:

.1. That the world is evil if you let it be

I feel the world is a very evil place if you don’t do things to prevent it from happening. I know I can only do so much on my own but a smile from stranger or not reacting to the comments can really make a difference

.2. Mindfulness can be used in different ways

I started to do mindfulness with the quest to clear my mind for every thought inside it just to learn you can do it your way. So my way is the opposite, I allow all my thoughts to come since I feel that most of the time during the day we are so focused on something that it does not allows us to think clearly so that is why I also my mind to have spaces where I am allowing that.

.3. Never stop learning

Life is long and even you feel you have learned enough in school keep yourself growing in wisdom. I have never been good at coding but these days I am practicing myself on W3schools and tryhackme to know even more.

.4. Homecooking is better than resturants

Sure I have gotten good food on resturants and sure I have gotten a good homemade meal at my parents but there is something different about the taste and joy when you make it all by yourself

.5. Being different is a strength not a weakness

Well this a bit of strech since I never watched being different as a bad thing but it was first when I reached my special school for asperger’s that I found the strength.

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Step by step

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Hello

I am finally getting ready to continue on my life and this website after some months with hard times as my head was like a blackhole. I have decide to restart my goals for the next month will be devide on 8 types. each with a simple goal:

Creative: Make 1 wordpress post every week

Drinks: Drink 2l of fuild and max 2 sodas a day

Ecomomy: Write down special things I buy

Fitness: 3 boulders sesions of boulders for at least 10mins climb, 5mins warmup and 5mins colddown

Food: Eat at least 1 fruit a day

Focus: Offline calender & 1 session of 5mins of mindfulness for 5mins

Nails and skin: Do not bite skin or nails from pinky

Sleep: Wake up at 6.25am and go to bed at 10.55pm

Starting now.

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Work/home balance

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How do you balance work and home life?

Well I am quite lucky in that regard since I am hired on special terms meaning I should not work more than 25hours a week plus having the Wednesday and weekend off. So to keep things simple I don’t do anything work after my work hours for the day and unless it is very important I don’t do appointments like dentist, massage and so on, on other days than during my Wednesday. So my work life balance is very easy to handle even though that changes can happen.

If I had a normal job with normal work hours I would have done my best to work for the 37 hours which is normal here and unless major events happen not work extra hours since I feel that many people forget to spend time with loved ones and miss a lot of events because of that and I don’t wanna lose that. I know that might make me get less pay but I am sure that family time is more valuable. Surely I would work extra for money if something in my life required it.

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Making me nervous?

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What makes you nervous?

I am a bit shy and not the best at new things all the time especially if they can change a lot in my life so guess I am nervous for a lot of things but I am working on it since I am trying to get away from being safe behind a screen of some kind. Guess that is also one of my goals of becoming more offline.

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Social media, to use or not

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How do you use social media?

Well this is a subject I feel divides people since these days there are governments trying to block it from kids and so on. I think it is a good idea to get a bit away from it at times but for an introvert person like me it is sometimes the only way I get to say anything because the world is too much. I mainly use it to write with friends but I am also using it to share my blog to a wider audience. I am also having the fight against doom scrolling but with the help of One Sec, I am doing better and my offline goal is making progress by the day.

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