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Principles

What principles define how you live?

Well I recently learned about myself that I have become too focused on the future and the past meaning that starting today I plan to live in the present time instead. It means I don’t have goals, surely I have things I wanna do better but I feel like my life is good as it is so why ruin it by focusing on goals for the future or regrets about the past.

This quote was my daily quote from a motivation app I use daily.

As for focusing on getting better I wanna develop this habits:

  1. Get out of bed at 6:00 a.m. and go to bed at 10:30 p.m. so I get a good night’s sleep and have a good day
  2. Stop damaging my nails and skin so my body
  3. Eat healthy, homemade food (four times a week), get enough fruit and vegetables (at least three portions) so that I am not held back by a lack of good food, and drink lemon juice three times a day.
  4. Hydrate with 2.5 liters of fluid a day consisting of water, kombucha, and only enjoy soda so that I am not held back by too much sugar or lack of fluids
  5. Focus on life and deal with changes through 4x meditation (day), mindfulness, and 1x reflection (day), as well as journaling and 3 goals for the day so I have a wonderful day
  6. Exercise 3x bouldering (week), 3x yoga (week), and 85km walks (month) so my body can be at its best
  7. Keep track of my finances with a budget so there is room for both savings and experiences so that life can be easy as pie
  8. Be more creative in my short stories and drawings and help the world understand Asperger’s so that life isn’t just movies, Reddit, and work.

Once I reach a good level of those I would let them grow with me so they are not goals but more as a way of getting better by the day.

That was my view.

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My attempts

What’s something you would attempt if you were guaranteed not to fail.

I have read that most people with Asperger’s syndrome have been interested in space some time in their lives so my attempt would for sure go to the moon or to some place in the universe with life just to finally get the answer if we are alone or not. If more simple I guess I would try dating someone.

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Favourite hobby

What is your favorite hobby or pastime?

I have 2, one for being indoor and one for ‘outdoor’, the reason for the ‘’ is because it is indoor but would have happened outside if possible.

My indoor hobby

My indoor hobby these days is for sure watching series or movies since I really enjoy spending time with that… I know it might not be perfect thing to do. I also love writing my novels but lately it has been very on/off to call it a favourite thing.

My outdoor hobby

My outdoor hobby for the past years is for sure my climbing in local boulders since it is fun, social and a sport and I have always been a climber in my heart so wish I could go back and introduce myself to it earlier.

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My life without computers

Your life without a computer: what does it look like?

Before I start I wanna say I am 36 years old so I am born before the internet, cell phones and such ruined much of kids child hoods. Sure I have played computer as child but I still had fun outside. But let’s start:

  1. I would have a really hard time working since most if not 90% of my assignments I do at work is in front of a computer or on a computer
  2. I use computer to play games, movies, write my novels, post here so I would loss that as well, but I feel a bit too much connect with tech these days
  3. I would lose lots of my friends since most of my friends are online and if no computer then I won’t be able to talk to them and I would surely miss them
  4. I would still have my scouts, boulders and yoga plus my family so guess I would be mostly fine.
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Danish culture

What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?

I think the most interesting part of Danish heritage is that we used to be vikings even that the period is commonly known as Iron Age, we Danes just find it so important that we call some of it Viking age. I find it cool that a people have made so many stories, series and movies. These days we are a bit more boring I would say hahaha

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Best advice

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

I would say I have gotten 2 really good advice

1. Take things slow

    Guess this one says itself but feel many people forget that things don’t have to a contest about how is fastest but instead about enjoying life itself one minute at a time

    2. Never share you goal with anyone before you are done

      I feel I should listen to this more since I really wanna share my novel but so far I have used many years to write it and my mind has changed the idea so many times but maybe if I focused on it instead of focused on share news from it then I would be done by now.

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      Life without music would be???

      What would your life be like without music?

      Short answer:

      Sorry to say but hell is a short I can make it

      Long answer:

      Often my focus is ruined by noise around me so if you want me to be able to focus on something allow me to hear music. It doesn’t always work since I can be distracted by other things than sounds but it is one of my main things so prefer to hear music. Other times my sensors goes crazy because I can’t handle the number of people around me and since I take train to work daily I would have have problems without music since it would be sickening for me to be in a full train. If music was not there I would either die of the sensory overload or not being able to work because of sounds. Sorry if this sounds too much but I am really trying to fit in so I am sorry to those who don’t understand my needs.

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      Lessons From Past Life

      Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

      Jesper’s lesson

      I wish I knew that things was not a race but that things comes when they come. To explain I feel like that I used to have in a big rush to experience things in life before because I didn’t understand I had plenty of time to do what I wanted or needed. These days I just take one step at the time while making sure that all my unique pieces are able to follow me to the new place in life.

      Ria’s lessons

      1. Love or feelings cant be forced. No matter how big your love for someone is but no guarantee they can love you back.
      2. Dont trust anyone. Trust need to be earned. And fact that nowadays many people like to lie for their own benefit
      3. We dont need people’ validation. Stop thinking about people’ opinion about us. People dont pay our bill and they are not God. So stop thinking too much about them. As long as you dont hurt other people, you are free.
      4. Dont be people pleaser. It will hurt you. Just be nice and spread love but know boundaries. Dont let yourself to be used by others.
      5. Have boundaries doesnt mean bad. Boundaries protect you. It helps people to respect you too. Boundaries will help you to help people but keep you safe too. Not sacrifice you and everything you have for certain people only.
      6. Dont rush things. Everything takes time. Love, relationship, business and etc. Instant things will bring instant and temporary results. Many people failed because they trusted on instant things.
      7. The most important treasure in life is health. With good health we almost can do everything. We can work, enjoy good meal, enjoy our sleep, oxygen and etc.
      8. Have spiritual life will help life to be balanced. Believe in God, or any religion or spiritual practice will help life to have goals and be peaceful
      9. People that hurt you most of the time are people that got hurt too. So stop the hatred, forgive and move on
      10. The world doesnt revolve around you. Learn how to share this world with other people and be humble.
      11. Nothing permanent in this life. So dont take anything for granted. Cherish every moment. Feel grateful. Love more.
      12. Do good and good things will come back to you. What you sow is what you will reap. Karma does exist. Sometimes it is slow. Sometimes instantly.
      13. Listen carefully and be humble to learn from other people. Because our opinions arent always right. Learning is life time process.
      14. Mean words will make things worse. So be careful with our words. Communicate better
      15. Try to see good things even in a disaster.
      16. Have empathy and world gonna be more peaceful
      17. We are rich if we share our things with other people.
      18. Read more and travel more
      19. Be careful with money as money can change people to wrong directions.
      20. See people’ action. Dont trust their words without real action
      21. Be careful with people you allow to be in your life. Once you let the bad people in, they can ruin your life.
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      Relaxing

      How do you relax?

      Well it is simple to relax for me since I have a few things to go to like reading a book which I have done for 2206 days in a row now, I can also relax with a good movie or series while a good walk is not so bad either since it cleans mind a lot of things.