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Danish culture

What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?

I think the most interesting part of Danish heritage is that we used to be vikings even that the period is commonly known as Iron Age, we Danes just find it so important that we call some of it Viking age. I find it cool that a people have made so many stories, series and movies. These days we are a bit more boring I would say hahaha

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Best advice

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

I would say I have gotten 2 really good advice

1. Take things slow

    Guess this one says itself but feel many people forget that things don’t have to a contest about how is fastest but instead about enjoying life itself one minute at a time

    2. Never share you goal with anyone before you are done

      I feel I should listen to this more since I really wanna share my novel but so far I have used many years to write it and my mind has changed the idea so many times but maybe if I focused on it instead of focused on share news from it then I would be done by now.

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      Life without music would be???

      What would your life be like without music?

      Short answer:

      Sorry to say but hell is a short I can make it

      Long answer:

      Often my focus is ruined by noise around me so if you want me to be able to focus on something allow me to hear music. It doesn’t always work since I can be distracted by other things than sounds but it is one of my main things so prefer to hear music. Other times my sensors goes crazy because I can’t handle the number of people around me and since I take train to work daily I would have have problems without music since it would be sickening for me to be in a full train. If music was not there I would either die of the sensory overload or not being able to work because of sounds. Sorry if this sounds too much but I am really trying to fit in so I am sorry to those who don’t understand my needs.

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      Lessons From Past Life

      Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

      Jesper’s lesson

      I wish I knew that things was not a race but that things comes when they come. To explain I feel like that I used to have in a big rush to experience things in life before because I didn’t understand I had plenty of time to do what I wanted or needed. These days I just take one step at the time while making sure that all my unique pieces are able to follow me to the new place in life.

      Ria’s lessons

      1. Love or feelings cant be forced. No matter how big your love for someone is but no guarantee they can love you back.
      2. Dont trust anyone. Trust need to be earned. And fact that nowadays many people like to lie for their own benefit
      3. We dont need people’ validation. Stop thinking about people’ opinion about us. People dont pay our bill and they are not God. So stop thinking too much about them. As long as you dont hurt other people, you are free.
      4. Dont be people pleaser. It will hurt you. Just be nice and spread love but know boundaries. Dont let yourself to be used by others.
      5. Have boundaries doesnt mean bad. Boundaries protect you. It helps people to respect you too. Boundaries will help you to help people but keep you safe too. Not sacrifice you and everything you have for certain people only.
      6. Dont rush things. Everything takes time. Love, relationship, business and etc. Instant things will bring instant and temporary results. Many people failed because they trusted on instant things.
      7. The most important treasure in life is health. With good health we almost can do everything. We can work, enjoy good meal, enjoy our sleep, oxygen and etc.
      8. Have spiritual life will help life to be balanced. Believe in God, or any religion or spiritual practice will help life to have goals and be peaceful
      9. People that hurt you most of the time are people that got hurt too. So stop the hatred, forgive and move on
      10. The world doesnt revolve around you. Learn how to share this world with other people and be humble.
      11. Nothing permanent in this life. So dont take anything for granted. Cherish every moment. Feel grateful. Love more.
      12. Do good and good things will come back to you. What you sow is what you will reap. Karma does exist. Sometimes it is slow. Sometimes instantly.
      13. Listen carefully and be humble to learn from other people. Because our opinions arent always right. Learning is life time process.
      14. Mean words will make things worse. So be careful with our words. Communicate better
      15. Try to see good things even in a disaster.
      16. Have empathy and world gonna be more peaceful
      17. We are rich if we share our things with other people.
      18. Read more and travel more
      19. Be careful with money as money can change people to wrong directions.
      20. See people’ action. Dont trust their words without real action
      21. Be careful with people you allow to be in your life. Once you let the bad people in, they can ruin your life.
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      Relaxing

      How do you relax?

      Well it is simple to relax for me since I have a few things to go to like reading a book which I have done for 2206 days in a row now, I can also relax with a good movie or series while a good walk is not so bad either since it cleans mind a lot of things.

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      To hold grudge or not

      Are you holding a grudge? About?

      Yes I guess I do even that don’t think about it each day. I feel my bullies from my first 6 years of school were not just bad but did it on purpose. My entire class was bullying me more or less, fx if someone touched me they would try to get it off by touching each other before touching me again making it all start over. I was often hurt and the worst was the guy who almost broke my neck which I luckily don’t remember anymore. And guess I could go on and on about what they did but guess I will leave this saying the actions still affects me to this day so yeah I would not forgive them.

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      My tears of joy

      What brings a tear of joy to your eye?

      I feel tears of joy when people are helping others without expecting anything in return other than a smile on the face of the people they help. I want to help so much as well and will continue to do the best I can.

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      My name came from…

      Where did your name come from?

      I am not sure why my parents decided to call me Jesper as so far I know, no people in my family is name like that, but maybe that is the answer, they were looking for a name which was not used a lot. As for Jesper itself it comes from Jasper which is some kind of gemstone while it is also one of the wise men’s name. A bit more recent we have the Danish football player Jesper Olsen which played for the wrong team Manchester United, I am Manchester City fan, and scored a own goal so the joke in Denmark is that Jesper is a bad pass to your goalkeeper hahahaha

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      Peace and Asperger’s

      What brings you peace?

      I feel that this was a good question to answer even as always I can only answer for myself but the thing that brings me peace is meditation and yes I know people will say their mind is too busy for that but give your mind 5mins at a time to not focus on something specific but letting your mind flow is good and brings me peace. I do that 5 times a day for 5mins each and I would never say I am the best since you are supposed to empty your mind which I am not but the busy in my head enjoys the freedom that I gives it since I feel that often we are focusing too much on what is happening right now. I know it is good to focus on what is happening but I also enjoy the peace my mind gets from being allowed to think anything. Guess that is all I want to say today except for give meditation a chance even you may not do it like the expects wants you to do it

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      ADHD, Asperger’s and sleep

      Hi everyone

      Today I wanna talk about sleep since I feel it is not talked about enough. I can of course not speak for everyone but I found some interesting information and have my own experiences as well so let’s start with ADHD sleep

      ADHD

      The reason I want to meantion ADHD today is because of a recent text I read: Sleep it talks about that people with ADHD having 4 kinds of problems with sleep. 1. Difficulty at falling asleep, 2. Restless sleep, 3. Difficulty at waking up and 4. Intrusive sleep.

      I think the 3 first is already know a lot since everyone can have those things I feel while the 4th one is what caught my interest. Intrusive sleep is something that can happen people with ADHD is suddenly bored or lost interest in something so the brain just shots down. Read more at the link and donate to the cause there since it is really good information.

      Asperger’s

      I have added Asperger’s since even we might not have the 4th one, I come back to that later, I feel we have a 5th thing. Getting drained from having to mask a lot just so we can function in life.

      Myself

      The link I share me think about me and some of the problems I have. I don’t and never had a sleep problem by going to bed or rather very rarely. But I am having problems with sleep sometimes since I experience the intrusive sleep since even I don’t want to sleep I sometimes just feel asleep and other times I just run out of energy like a battery because of masking I would say. The last thing I have problems with is sometimes waking up from alarm clocks, guess things just requires to much energy from me, which makes it hard for me to wake up again. I am not ashamed to say that I get my mom to call me in the morning when I have stuff like work. Maybe a girlfriend would help me with that if I had one. So I have 3 out of 5 sleep problems.