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Lessons From Past Life

Posted on by JTCHlife

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

Jesper’s lesson

I wish I knew that things was not a race but that things comes when they come. To explain I feel like that I used to have in a big rush to experience things in life before because I didn’t understand I had plenty of time to do what I wanted or needed. These days I just take one step at the time while making sure that all my unique pieces are able to follow me to the new place in life.

Ria’s lessons

  1. Love or feelings cant be forced. No matter how big your love for someone is but no guarantee they can love you back.
  2. Dont trust anyone. Trust need to be earned. And fact that nowadays many people like to lie for their own benefit
  3. We dont need people’ validation. Stop thinking about people’ opinion about us. People dont pay our bill and they are not God. So stop thinking too much about them. As long as you dont hurt other people, you are free.
  4. Dont be people pleaser. It will hurt you. Just be nice and spread love but know boundaries. Dont let yourself to be used by others.
  5. Have boundaries doesnt mean bad. Boundaries protect you. It helps people to respect you too. Boundaries will help you to help people but keep you safe too. Not sacrifice you and everything you have for certain people only.
  6. Dont rush things. Everything takes time. Love, relationship, business and etc. Instant things will bring instant and temporary results. Many people failed because they trusted on instant things.
  7. The most important treasure in life is health. With good health we almost can do everything. We can work, enjoy good meal, enjoy our sleep, oxygen and etc.
  8. Have spiritual life will help life to be balanced. Believe in God, or any religion or spiritual practice will help life to have goals and be peaceful
  9. People that hurt you most of the time are people that got hurt too. So stop the hatred, forgive and move on
  10. The world doesnt revolve around you. Learn how to share this world with other people and be humble.
  11. Nothing permanent in this life. So dont take anything for granted. Cherish every moment. Feel grateful. Love more.
  12. Do good and good things will come back to you. What you sow is what you will reap. Karma does exist. Sometimes it is slow. Sometimes instantly.
  13. Listen carefully and be humble to learn from other people. Because our opinions arent always right. Learning is life time process.
  14. Mean words will make things worse. So be careful with our words. Communicate better
  15. Try to see good things even in a disaster.
  16. Have empathy and world gonna be more peaceful
  17. We are rich if we share our things with other people.
  18. Read more and travel more
  19. Be careful with money as money can change people to wrong directions.
  20. See people’ action. Dont trust their words without real action
  21. Be careful with people you allow to be in your life. Once you let the bad people in, they can ruin your life.
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Relaxing

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How do you relax?

Well it is simple to relax for me since I have a few things to go to like reading a book which I have done for 2206 days in a row now, I can also relax with a good movie or series while a good walk is not so bad either since it cleans mind a lot of things.

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To hold grudge or not

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Are you holding a grudge? About?

Yes I guess I do even that don’t think about it each day. I feel my bullies from my first 6 years of school were not just bad but did it on purpose. My entire class was bullying me more or less, fx if someone touched me they would try to get it off by touching each other before touching me again making it all start over. I was often hurt and the worst was the guy who almost broke my neck which I luckily don’t remember anymore. And guess I could go on and on about what they did but guess I will leave this saying the actions still affects me to this day so yeah I would not forgive them.

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My tears of joy

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What brings a tear of joy to your eye?

I feel tears of joy when people are helping others without expecting anything in return other than a smile on the face of the people they help. I want to help so much as well and will continue to do the best I can.

Jesper

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My name came from…

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Where did your name come from?

I am not sure why my parents decided to call me Jesper as so far I know, no people in my family is name like that, but maybe that is the answer, they were looking for a name which was not used a lot. As for Jesper itself it comes from Jasper which is some kind of gemstone while it is also one of the wise men’s name. A bit more recent we have the Danish football player Jesper Olsen which played for the wrong team Manchester United, I am Manchester City fan, and scored a own goal so the joke in Denmark is that Jesper is a bad pass to your goalkeeper hahahaha

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Peace and Asperger’s

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What brings you peace?

I feel that this was a good question to answer even as always I can only answer for myself but the thing that brings me peace is meditation and yes I know people will say their mind is too busy for that but give your mind 5mins at a time to not focus on something specific but letting your mind flow is good and brings me peace. I do that 5 times a day for 5mins each and I would never say I am the best since you are supposed to empty your mind which I am not but the busy in my head enjoys the freedom that I gives it since I feel that often we are focusing too much on what is happening right now. I know it is good to focus on what is happening but I also enjoy the peace my mind gets from being allowed to think anything. Guess that is all I want to say today except for give meditation a chance even you may not do it like the expects wants you to do it

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ADHD, Asperger’s and sleep

Posted on by JTCHlife

Hi everyone

Today I wanna talk about sleep since I feel it is not talked about enough. I can of course not speak for everyone but I found some interesting information and have my own experiences as well so let’s start with ADHD sleep

ADHD

The reason I want to meantion ADHD today is because of a recent text I read: Sleep it talks about that people with ADHD having 4 kinds of problems with sleep. 1. Difficulty at falling asleep, 2. Restless sleep, 3. Difficulty at waking up and 4. Intrusive sleep.

I think the 3 first is already know a lot since everyone can have those things I feel while the 4th one is what caught my interest. Intrusive sleep is something that can happen people with ADHD is suddenly bored or lost interest in something so the brain just shots down. Read more at the link and donate to the cause there since it is really good information.

Asperger’s

I have added Asperger’s since even we might not have the 4th one, I come back to that later, I feel we have a 5th thing. Getting drained from having to mask a lot just so we can function in life.

Myself

The link I share me think about me and some of the problems I have. I don’t and never had a sleep problem by going to bed or rather very rarely. But I am having problems with sleep sometimes since I experience the intrusive sleep since even I don’t want to sleep I sometimes just feel asleep and other times I just run out of energy like a battery because of masking I would say. The last thing I have problems with is sometimes waking up from alarm clocks, guess things just requires to much energy from me, which makes it hard for me to wake up again. I am not ashamed to say that I get my mom to call me in the morning when I have stuff like work. Maybe a girlfriend would help me with that if I had one. So I have 3 out of 5 sleep problems.

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I wish to know more about life’s meaning

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What are you curious about?

Like I almost just answered in my title, I want to know the meaning of life since at the moment I find it difficult for me to understand what I want in life. I mean I am doing great with work, I am having fun with boulders, walks and what else, I have good friends, I am a bit uncertain about getting a lover or not but I feel like an 8 in terms of happiness, I just sometimes feel like an outsider since I don’t understand the meaning of life and I don’t know what I want from it since I don’t understand what questions I need to have. Sorry guess I am just rambling but all the people who read this, thanks and will go back to my series ‘for all mankind’

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Life in an alternate universe

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Daily writing prompt
Describe your life in an alternate universe.
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Well I recently started to wonder how life would be if I was ‘normal’ instead of having Asperger’s and when I noticed this question I felt like I had to write something here after so many days with no post because life had been too much for this and my novel Beyond love existence so I am sorry I disappeared and I will try to be here more once again. So to answer the question on life then I feel like my life in an alternate universe could mean 2 different lives. 1. where I am normal and 2. where some physical injury had ruined my life. I am not pointing fingers at anyone, just feel that there are 3 types of lives, 1. normal ones, 2. physical injury preventing 100% like a broken back or a lost leg or 3. psychically like my Asperger’s or Bipolar.

To answer the main question then I think that my life in alternate universe would mean I had lost a leg at childbirth meaning I would still have problems being perfectly normal so I do not think I would still get bullied and such but because I didn’t have Asperger’s I would maybe have better luck understand people around me and that way not hurt people around me, which I feel I do a bit often. Hopefully I would also make me stronger to fight for things and maybe help people better. If I was not as good with computers as now then maybe I would be better at being a kindergarten teacher even it might be a bit weird to an one legged teacher but at least the kids would have lots to ask about. Otherwise since I would no longer be having motion sickness I could maybe be a sailor or roller coaster care taker since water is one of my favorite things or at least I used to be a sea turtle in my baby years. I also love eating fish now so maybe my food would be more plant based since I do not mind vegan food just not always the best to eat a good salad. I wonder if I would had more dates and such in the alternate universe since I am happy for what I have experienced in this life but maybe more things could have happened.

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