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10 things I hate as an Aspie

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Today Ria gave me the idea to publish 10 things I hate as an Aspie and I have decide not to make them order as I do not feel they have an order except for the first one

  • I hate or rather feel hurt that some people would rather have an chance that their kids died than having Asperger’s/ autism because they have the idea that vaccines gives it when it certainly does not
  • I hate that some people sees us as a difficult group people just because a few of us is need more help than what a normal person does
  • I hate that some people sees us as one type of people and do not understand that we are just as different as you and your sister or brother.
  • I hate that some people believes we fake it just to get attention and extra stuff like money and let me answer you right away the last thing I want is attention, I hate to be in the spotlight so if I could be normal or at least avoid people attention because of my different ways of acting I would love it.
  • I hate I was bullied as a child and that no one tried to help me or at least explained to me it was bad so I did not do it myself
  • I hate that people expect me to be around people all the time to be happy, I do not mind to be at home or go for a holiday on my own.
  • I hate discussions because I might see things a bit black and white even I know the world is not
  • I hate phone calls as they are unexpected and I fear that I am disturbing the person in the other end as I cannot see what they are doing
  • I hate that people expect me to remember their names or known their age as my memory do not remember names it does not use often and as for age, I cannot see it other than you are a child, young or old so please stop make me guess
  • I hate that people gets annoyed on me for being blunt or not sounding happy or sad enough at the right time.
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Asperger’s and special interests

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Today I would like to tell you about special interests which is a thing, people with Asperger’s often have. It might sound like having normal interest in things but in my opinion I would say it is not similar so I have made a little comparing here before I will talk about it. I am not sure if all Asperger’s will agree with me but like I said it is my opinion and feeling about it. For the record at the moment and for a long time my special interest has been China.

No.NT interestAsperger’s “Special” interest
1.Can learn new things about itOften learns something and then does not care if right or wrong
2.Can talk about other thingsReally wants to talk about it and often cannot stop
3.Can have more than one interestOften only one at the time but can change over time
4.Can ‘snap out’ of itSometimes we get so focused we forget time and place
5.Covers a ‘whole’ areaCan be very specific

Lets start with number 1. row. I often feel that if I have learned something in my special interest I cannot just change the ‘facts’ about it even that something new tells me otherwise but I have had different subjects as special interest over the years so is now more open to new facts and it does not ruin my mood or other things about the subject. I feel the 2. row gives itself meaning but to clear up any miss understanding I feel if I get started on my favorite subject it is sometimes hard for me to stop again and together with 4. I feel it is often hard to not focus on even we might be hungry and everything. Row 3. first of all it is not entire clear but I feel Asperger’s can have interests which are not special interest like NT’s but I feel it is needed to say that it is not the same. As like I already said, it is a bit more than just being interested. As for row 5 it means that if a NT is interested in cars then maybe the Asperger’s special interest version can be that he like a certain brand or maybe even deeper a certain car part like the breaks. It is a bit like watching a movie, Asperger’s see the details but NT see the whole movie.

As you can see it can be very different and of course I am not saying that NT’s cannot be really interested in a certain subject as well.

Story time

To end this post I would like to tell a short story about my special interest back when I did not know I had Asperger’s or knew about special interest for that matter. The story starts in primary school in 5. grade. My danish language teacher at the time presented me for the idea which was a booklet where you was allowed to write down everything you wanted from plant to the animal kingdom and everything else. My special interest back then was space so wrote a lot about it, actually I wrote so much that my danish teacher wanted me to write something else so she banned me from writing it. But since I was so interested in it I could not just stop myself from writing more but I was not stupid as I did not want her to punish me, so I created some pages I called the ‘naughty’ pages and inside them I wrote everything I wanted about space that I wanted. Time went on and one day my teacher of course caught me but because of my funny work-around she could not stop laughing even she wanted to be a bit angry at me and instead she gave up and allowed me to write even more about space.

Before I go I want to remind you all that you can ask any question you want answered and the easiest way is here or comment below

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Questions from Ria Part 1

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Here are some questions that Ria (Neurotypical) wants me Jesper (Asperger’s) to answer, maybe more will come.

1. What makes you feel hard to interact with neurotypical?

Answer: I often find it hard to know what the person want from me fx if a person is hurt sometimes I need to know if they just want the bandage or if they want a hug instead if that sense. (I know now but it was the only example I could think of) I also find it hard when no subject is given from the start.

1.1 Why?

Answer: I do no know why.

2. If you can reborn, you choose to still have aspergers or not?

Answer: Yes.

2.1 Why?

Answer: Because Asperger’s is how I am and I am sure that many of the things I have done I would not have done if I did not have Asperger’s.

3. Do you think your family fully support you as family member that has Asperger?

Answer: Yes I feel like they all support me.

3.1 How do they help n support you?

Answer: Help me with things I need help with, cannot come closer to that… maybe answering my stupid questions.

3.2 Is there any problems happen in family because of your Asperger?

Answer: Not that I know of.

3.3 Do your parents treat you differently?

Answer: Not that I know of, but I think they sometimes blame themselves a bit about that they did not noticed I was getting bullied and such before it was too late.

4. What you wish from neurotypical to understand about you as an aspie?

Answer: That we are not rude on purpose, sometimes we just speak the thing we find most obvious in the situation.

5. Do you want a cure?

Answer: Nope.

5.1 Why?

Answer: Because Asperger’s is how I am and I am sure that many of the things I have done I would not have done if I did not have Asperger’s plus I do not hurt anyone so why change me.

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Sleep cycle is an awesome app

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Today I have almost used Sleep cycle for 2 months and it really gave me a new light on my sleep and how it affects me. The past days I have been so tired and without energy and I can see in the app that it is because I did stupid things to my sleep like going to be at random times and not just jumping out of bed at a certain time. I do not have much else to say other than I highly recommend it or some way else of measure your sleep as it is truly a superpower to get a good sleep. I cannot wait for my new bed to arrive next Wednesday so I can get a new start on my sleep.

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I am the alien in this world

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Photo by SHVETS production from Pexels

I walk miles on this earth
I speak languages on this earth
I breathe air on this earth
I live my life on this earth

But… I do not understand
I do not understand you
I do not understand me
I do not understand anything

Are we created or born on this earth?
Are we feeling or painless on this earth?
Are we alone or together on this earth?
Are we walking or flying on this earth?

But… I do not understand
I do not understand you
I do not understand me
I do not understand anything

I speak the same as you but I do not understand
I walk the same as you but I do not understand
I eat the same as you but I do not understand
I feel the same as you but I do not understand

But… I do not understand
I do not understand you
I do not understand me
I do not understand anything

I am the alien in this world
I want to scream loudly
I am the alien in this world
I want to run away
I am the alien in this world
I want to touch you
I am the alien in this world
I want to love you
I… I… I… am the alien in a world where no one really care for anyone and only lives for money and fame
I… I… I… AM THE ALIEN IN THIS WORLD

Written by Jesper Christiansen, 20 Oktober 2021

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Sorry no post (Maybe go watch Somebody)

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Just wanted to give a post this week and not like last week where nothing happened at all. I hope to return next week as life just happened and my head has been a bit full. Guess I want you to watch Somebody (Korean Drama) on Netflix with Asperger’s as well if I have to say anything this week. I have yet to watch it myself but guess I will soon.

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Apps that helps me

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Today I want to talk about apps that I feel help me with things I might not have gotten done if not an app or a person would have told me to.

1. Headspace

Headspace is an app for meditation and I know some people will say it is hard for people with Asperger or ADHD to focus long enough but this app learned me it is not about having a quiet mind but make it focus on something else while you relax. The reason I love this app more than other meditation apps is because you can learn to focus doing certain aspects of like stress and so on.

2. WaterMinder

WaterMinder helps me drink water and other fluids as I am really bad at remembering to drink stuff plus it recently started to use it to become more healthy and drink more water instead of just drinking cola and so on all the time.

3. Moodistory

The last app I will mention is Moodistory which is an app which you can use to journal how you life is by giving smilies, add icons for what you did doing the day and write down everything you want. I like it especially because you can make it as simple or advanced you want

Before I go today I want to say sorry the apps are all pay and none free, maybe I will find some awesome free ones for another time.

P.s all icons is taken from their app website.

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10 myths about Asperger’s

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Today I want to share some myths about Asperger’s and answer what I think of them compared to me. Since all people with Asperger’s are different I will tell if I am different from others with Asperger’s according to the myth

1. People with Asperger’s syndrome do not have emotions or feelings.

Answer: I have plenty of emotions and feelings, sometimes I might even get it stronger than NT people.

2. People with Asperger’s syndrome have no interest in social interaction.

Answer: I like spending time with people but often need a break afterwards while I can get sick if way too many people in one time like in a mall on Black Friday.

3. People with Asperger’s syndrome do not have a sense of humor.

Answer: I have no humor… Of course I do but sometimes I do not get the jokes as quickly or laugh at other things.

4. People with Asperger’s syndrome are not interested in sex.

Answer: I am interested in sex, nothing more to say to that.

5. People with Asperger’s syndrome do not speak.

Answer: I, sometimes wish I did not speak because my mind sees a connection fast and sometimes it is not nice connection. Fx my uncle and cousin was one time talking about if there were cell phones back when my uncle was a child and without thinking I yelled “Nope they was first invited by the time he reached menopause age. But there are people with Asperger’s who does not speak.

6. People with Asperger’s syndrome are all geniuses.

Answer: I am not clever but not stupid either.

7. People with Asperger’s syndrome are mentally retarded.

Answer: I am not clever but not stupid either.

8. People with Asperger’s syndrome cannot have normal relationships or live independently.

Answer: I have been having 2 girlfriends and I am living pretty independently in an apartment. Of course my parents helps me a bit like you do with normal kids but doing fine on my own and have planned trips to Japan on my own before.

9. People with Asperger’s syndrome will never be able to hold “real” jobs.

Answer: I have work part time (25 hours) at IT company which takes 45mins by train to get there so maybe I am not able to work full time but I am doing my part and I love it.

10. Asperger’s syndrome disorders are extremely rare, and easy to spot when they exist.

Answer: If you know what to look for then there is plenty of us, but since it is not called Asperger’s anymore we are rare I guess lol

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Asperger’s in movies & series

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Have you ever felt a person was acting like you in a movie or series before? Well that kind of thing happens for people with Asperger’s as well and since I have watched a lot of movies and series it have have happened quiet a lot. I have picked 2 series and 2 movies which I have watched which all have an Asperger’s character in the, but before I start I would like to say that some Asperger’s do not like the way the people are acting in them but to me, it is not a problem as we are all different just like ‘normal’ people are different. Anyway my picks are: Adam, Atypical, Extraordinary Attorney Woo (Korean poster) and Mozart and the whale

Adam

The movie Adam is a movie about a guy named Adam who has lived with his dad all his life but he has died and now Adam has to live on his own but he has no clue about everything and to make things more interested a cute girl named Beth, moves in the apartment. This movie was the first time I watched a movie with Asperger’s and I loved how they explained things like we do not like strangers so much, we have routines and prefer to stick with them, we do not always know what to say and sometimes it comes out wrong. I love how they show him growing in the entire movie from not knowing when to stop talking about space to help a women in the end. I highly recommend it and so does my former headmaster as Asperger’s school here in Denmark as I showed it to her and she decide it would be a movie for the teachers there to watch. I also recommend watching it twice because many of the events have two meanings and I did not notice them before I watched it again.

Atypical

The series Atypical is a series about an a guy named Sam with Asperger’s who have live his whole life where his mom has taken care of all his needs while his sister sometime tease him but also cares about him. This one shows that we not always know what to do about thing and how to feel about people as he falls in love with his psychiatrist because she seems nice to him and in the end she hates him for ruin her relationship with the father of her child. They also shows that we sometimes goes on living our lives like nothing happens even when his parents breaks up because of his moms affair. Sam finds love even he is not sure what love is and his girlfriend does a lot of cute things for him even that his sister is a bit against her. It also show we sometimes have a subject we really care about and for Sam that one is penguins

Extraordinary Attorney Woo

The series Extraordinary Attorney Woo is a Korean one which compared to the other is following a young woman named Woo who is the first Attorney trainee with Asperger’s who loves to talk about whales and law. She has a few learned things from her father like wait a few seconds before entering a door after knocking and such. Even I am not a woman like in the series it hurt me a bit to see that people if they love us they sometimes get bullied for it as I exercised it myself with my first ex. I am also not as clever as she is and I do not think I have a memory like hers even it is pretty good at times.

Mozart and the whale

I do not know what to say about this movie other than it is pretty unique as many of the characters is having some kind of diagnose and that the main character wants to take care of them like I wanted in real life. I felt I needed to share the movie because it was so unique with all the characters.

Honorable mention

Rain Man is a great movie with Dustin Hoffman, I would not say his character Raymond is having Asperger’s but damm this movie has everything and it came just at the right time when the world needed to see us. He has many of the special things about us like needing a routine and how people watched us back then. I cannot count cards or anything like him but I would like to say thanks to Dustin Hoffman for playing this character

Conclusion

As you can see there are many movies with Asperger’s and other types of people and like I said at first not all Asperger’s like the portrait we have on movie but I feel each of the movies I mentioned has a bit of me inside them as I have in them. I know it is just movies but sometimes movies learns you something about life too. Go watch them if you want to understand a bit about our world.

P.s the covers are all from IMDB

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