Today I don’t have much energy to post since I had a scout meetings all week which really took my energy plus I was delayed to go home because my mom needed my help with some computer issues so I just wanted to share a news from a Danish news site saying that people with ADHD lives up to 11 years less than normal people which I found too crazy not to post here so here is the link. I know it is in Danish but I guess people can use google translate or similar services to read it. Now I will rest so I can manage the last days of the week
Author: JTCHlife
A free-time novelist trying to make his first novel named Beyond love existence while also making a bit of poetry at times
To change diagnose name or not
Today I was reading up on Asperger’s to make a post here and I fell over a website which clearly told me the difference between ‘old’ Asperger’s and the new level 1 that has replaced it in 2013. Why Asperger’s Syndrome Is No Longer an Official Diagnosis is the link for those who want to read it and I just looked at the levels and reasons which made me wonder if I should change the look at myself and call myself a level 1 (DSM-5) instead of Asperger’s. I understand the reasons behind the changes but I am not ‘afraid’ to be called something a nazi doctor was name since no matter what he was the one who discovered it and second of all I am not always feeling that the new levels covers me so guess I will continue to call it that even some people might prefer the new one which I am not even sure what is other that ‘autism’. So unless I am told otherwise I won’t call myself Autism level 1 since I am not sure if that is my real number.
10 things you might not know about Asperger’s
1. Will not go along with the crowd if they know that something is wrong
I hate to do things I know is wrong already so only if I am force or I do not know better then I will walk with the crowd
2. Don’t force others to live up to demanding social expectations
I do not care what the social expectations says that you have to do, I do not care
3. don’t have hidden agendas
I say things blunt and yes it sometimes give me problems but I rather have it all in the open than keep it a secret
4. don’t usually recognize hierarchies, and so are unlikely to give someone superior status simply because that person is wealthy or has attained a high position in an organization
I can talk to anyone as long you want to talk to me and I do not care about who and what you are
5. are very accepting of the quirks and idiosyncrasies of others
please be how you are around me and do not fake it
6. have no interest in harming others
I do not like to hurt people which is also why I do not like fights no matter what, I know it sometimes means I go silent but it is just because I do not want to continue the bad way
7. like to spend time alone and are perfectly capable of entertaining themselves
Sure I can have fun with you but I do not mind being on my own as well
8. don’t discriminate against anyone based on race, gender, age, or any other surface criteria
If you are kind to me, I do not care about anything, sometimes I just need a little ‘push’ to get started but that has nothing to do with you
9. you definitely know a few autistic people. Maybe you don’t know it, but you do. Maybe they don’t know it either. We’re 1% of the general population, which is higher than it sounds.
I might have Asperger’s but we are different just like you are to someone else
10. Asperger’s is not a thing anymore
I know Asperger’s is not a thing but it was when I was diagnosed and I am not sure where to place me in the new system.
‘Just do this’ is not always simple
Today I will make a short post since my head is mixing between headache and being tired and I want to talk about the things we say to each other more precisely the words ‘Just do this’ since it is always simple to tell people to do something but if the person of the reviving end have problems then it is not so easy. I learned that today I would say. I guess it is best explained with an example.
If you tell a person to walk down the street then a good and fresh person would just do it no big deal I guess but if you tell me then I might start focusing on my legs since I am very clumsy, focus on people talking on the street since I need to be sure they don’t mention my name for some odd reason or maybe the weather is too warm for me so I focus tried to get cold again.
As you can see both people will manage to do what you asked of them but even it is a simple task I might use more energy on it than a NT person, not because it is longer but because so much is happening around me that NT would not notice so yeah you can tell me to do it something and slowly I will start doing it while getting better and better to ignore the things you don’t get focused on in the first place. So I am sorry I am slow to learn things sometimes but know that I always want to make you happy and do what you request unless really bad things.
News 2/1-2025
Today I just want to say Happy New Years to new and old followers, thanks for joining me on my quest to finish this book. I hope you all came thought it in good health. I cannot wait to post more often here and I have made a goal for 2025 that together with my beyondloveexistence.com I will make 2 posts a week, I might not be there yet but I will work my towards my goal.
Jesper
News 19/12-2024
Hello,
Today I just want to say Merry Christmas and Happy new years to new and old followers, thanks for joining me on my quest to finish this book.
Jesper
News 25/11-2024
Today I have 2 things in mind…
- I want to say sorry for being away so a while but life was a bit much for me plus I did not have any ideas for post so I did not post anything but I will try to return to at least post a week again
- I am looking for a way to add all the posts from here to Reddit in an easy way, just spend an hour looking, maybe I am missing an easy way… just know this is a wordpress.com website so I do not have access to plugins unless I pay a million and I do not want that.
Guess that was all for today
We are on Reddit
Hi everyone
Today 4/11-2024 I have tried to create a subreddit for this page. I will fill it up with old post and new post as my time allows me. I hope you will help us make a great community for all kinds of people. No persons (unless harmful) will be left out.
Thanks and cannot wait to see you all there
Jesper & Ria
Asperger’s and sport
Today’s post is going to be about sports as I feel that I had a great deal of issues finding a sport with space for me which might be one of the reasons that many with Asperger’s (My experience ) do not like sports. Another thing that sometimes make it hard is the social aspect of the sports. I have decided to go through the sports that I have been doing over my life of 35 years and tell why I think they either went well or ended up bad for me.
Football (Soccer)
One of the first sports I ever tried was the classic football but truth be told I have never been good with a ball so I am not sure why I even tried. At practice things went okay I would say so far I remember but at the first match I played I had no clue about what to do and no one played the ball to me so I ended up going home after that match. I tried again some years after but I was still not good with a ball but this time the coach was a nice guy so I guess my football life ended at a 5/10 score because it was never excellent but my friends the second time made it fun at least.
Swimming
Another sport I started very early was swimming since my mom wants me and my siblings to know how to swim because of some family event. So I would say I was forced to join swimming but it was quiet fun and it can be very one person sport. I have lots of good memories with it but I stopped because the team I was ending up swimming on was a competition team and in the end the competition felt too forced. I might have continued if I had the chance of swim without the competition as I loves being in water and took a diving license around 18 months ago. But at the team it was only possible to do some fitness stuff with older people and I was not in mood for that so my swimming life at 7/10.
Shooting with rifle
This one was a really short sport for me, I started because in Denmark or at least in many danish schools you have a competition in school shooting with an rifle. I found it fun at the time but the fun after the competition quickly died since no one at the shooting place tried to teach us anything afterwards, so my parents had to help me. So 3/10, which might even be to high.
Scouts
This one is one of the best since I am still an active scout member, just not a scout anymore but a leader which takes care of my old scout group’s 6-8 year old kids. The reason I feel scouts is so great is because of that it is so many things and even you feel you have experience it all, it just keeps on giving. I got started a bit late and unless my future love is too city like I think I want my kids to experience it as quickly as possible. Another good thing about scouts is that since everyone is different we are good at different things meaning you do not get forced to do things you do not like but are allowed to grow even more in those area you are good and fight in those you are not. So for sure a 10/10
Fitness
Fitness is maybe not a sport per say but it is still about moving your body and I feel that the reason it quickly died out for me was because I felt you did not feel the progress happening for you. I know I did some running and some weights but never felt home there so instead I have decided to just walk around in town plus my boulders. 1/10 and that is for sure being kind
Boulders
Boulders is a sport where you are climbing different routes in different difficulty and you can follow your own progress this way. It also have competitions but I have not tried it yet, which also reminds me of another aspect of this sport, it is as social as you want it to be meaning if you wanna be on your own you can check in, do your climbing, head home or you can start talking to random people about the routes since people have different experiences with the routes. Not like in fitness where you just talk about how much you can lift and such. This is great for me for personally since I some days I am in good social mood and want to get help and help others with the routes while other times I am tired and just want to be myself. It is also a good place to train your balance since you really need it to climb it which is one of the reason I continues to do it as my legs can be very stiff and my balance is very bad. The score is of course another 10/10 and before as a way to end this post I have added a picture of me from today climbing my first purple route which is level 5 in the system they use at my boulders center.
All in all I just want to show that there is lots of different sports in the world and I am sure that there are one for you as well, so you do not have to be in front of computer or television all the time.
Time to enjoy life
Z = Zone
Today marks the end of the alphabet as we have reached Z, I already know wonder what I will about next week but I am sure something will come up. So back the the letter Z and this weeks word Zone. For those people who does not know zone, it is when you are interested very much into a subject that you forgets thing around you. Yes that sounds very normal I would say but the thing for Asperger’s is that we get so much in the zone that we forget everything else and I mean literally everything else and it can be so, lack of better word, bad for us that we forget to eat or drink and if you try talk to us we might even ignore you. I guess it is good to be in the zone since you get things done whatever it is legos, your job or what else just sometimes we need a timer so we know it is time for other things and I guess a heads up about the time is about to run out is good. These days I feel the introduction of all the notifications from phones and what else makes it a bit harder to get into the zone but it is still there. So sorry in advance if I am ignoring you.
You but different 