This week’s letter is M and I have decided it stands for movement since it can mean two things to me, one that I am not always the best to move my body aka motor skills which means I am very clumsy at times. I can fall over seemly easy and noticeable things but for some reason I am pretty good at climbing in trees and at boulders. When I was a baby I started walking early even before I was 1 year old but because I was so clumsy I stopped for a few months before I started again. I also climbed so much when I was younger than one time I was found in the highest tree of the kinder garden and by some luck they did not need a firetruck or similar to get me down from there. I wonder if that was the reason the cut down the tree. The other thing I am thinking about when talking about movement is that I not the best at moving around even I want to move to another place. I have moved out but I am not sure that I would have done it if not someone was behind me and forcing my hand a bit. I am glad to live on my own these days but life could have been different.
Month: June 2024
J = Joke
This week’s letter is J and I have decide it stands for jokes. I picked jokes since it is often hard for people with Asperger’s to understand jokes. I remember when I was younger I often didn’t get jokes and when I finally got them people was either way past that joke or if I was lucky telling another joke, so I could hide that I was slow at understanding them. These days I am making jokes on my own and I understand them better since I have started to be able to read people. I still don’t get them every time but most of them I do. I like jokes as long as they are not hurting people even I sometimes can say jokes which might be hurtful by mistakes because it is often hard for me to read the room. As an example, I walked past a woman with a double pushchair and she walked like her kids was in there even they were not and I felt so fresh and in mood to joke that I looked at her death serious and said “you seem to have forgotten the most important thing” and she looked at me and responded “What?” And I could not stop laughing when answering “Your kids” and she luckily started laughing while replying “ohh I know where they are as I just left them” so it was a good day so sometimes that is how I joke but other times I don’t get the jokes. Asperger’s often only read the words no matter how you serious or how happy you maybe look… it is also why we don’t get irony or sarcasm. So next time you joke maybe make sure people around might not all get it
K = King
This week’s letter is K and I have decide it stands for King and no I do not mean like a ruler but I like to think people with Asperger’s might be the king in a game of Chess.
Why, king
Well the reason I see an person with Asperger’s as a king is because we often need help to do things and there are different people and things which do that for us. I am not saying this is a what a psychiatrist or similar would say as this just hit me the other day since we were playing chess at work. Anyway as you know there are king, queen, bishop, knight, rook and pawns in chess
King
I already explained this one but to explain it better then I see us as a king since we need help with different things from different people and things. I also see them as kings since who is seen himself as a pawn unless you talk about work and such plus you are your own master.
Queen
Lets start with the queen, the queen is a strong piece who can move a lot in all directions which to me can be compared to a good mother and later in life a good lover / girlfriend who can help you all the time with things other people do not always see. This is the most important person for a person with Asperger’s
Bishop
The bishop is a good piece as well but can only move diagonal which to me can be compared to a good friend since even you are very good friends, it is sometimes hard for friends to understand what you need and what is wrong at the moment plus they have their own lives so sometimes you follow them for a while before losing them again.
Knight
The knight can jump over other pieces in chess which to me can be compared to having a pet since sometimes you prefer to be away from people but might feel lonely alone which makes a pet a good things since a dog or cat or some other animal can really make life great since they do not demand a lot compared to people at times.
Rook
The rook is a strong piece which can code from the side and be there which to me can be compared to siblings as they understand you better than a friend might do and they often jump in front of you or cover you if you need help since they care about you deeply.
Pawn
The pawn might not be the strongest piece on the board but you know that once you reach the end of the board with one you can change it into whatever piece you want. This compares to life as at first a person might not be important in your life, but once you get to know them they might slowly become something else and depending on how well things goes you might have a queen.
J = Job
This week’s letter is J and I have decide it stands for Job even that I for a moment thought I should write Jesper since that is my name and that way talk about myself but I feel I do that already. Btw sorry that I was so slow to return here, I will be better now.
Job
I have decided to pick job out of the millions of words with J since Jobs is very important in life and no matter if you have one or don’t, I often feel that NT often forget that people with special needs have special needs.
Hiring
The first problem is that people often only hire those people who fits the role 100% and doesn’t look for people with special needs making it a bit hard for us to get a job but if you have a good job and allows us to thrive I am certain that your company will benefit from having a special needs person hired. As for the people with needs I think you should try find a field that both covers your abilities, your skills and your interests, I know you can say that to everyone but I feel it is very important for people with Asperger’s and others since it is hard to just do something you don’t like when you have limited energy already.
Work and workload
Just look at me I am working for a software company and I am only able to do 25 hours a week plus I have Wednesday and weekends as days off. I am lucky for that since I would not have enough energy for a normal work schedule and because I am working at a software company I am also able have some good assignments that used my abilities instead of just working at a shop with no good schedule or assignments that is inside my abilities. I know that not all people can be as lucky as me on that point but no matter what they need a job as well and that is where you come in. You are probably wondering why I say you even you the reader might not have a company or a position where you can hire someone but no matter who you are, you can always help a person with needs do his job and help he fit in instead of seeing him as something else. I think that most work places could benefit if people helped each other out instead of competing with each other. I get that some people are hard to work with or maybe you need to grow inside your own work.
Work is better than no work
Maybe your favourite thing is not able on the job market at the moment but then you should start small instead of just doing nothing since doing nothing just ends up ruining your opportunities so if you want a job as a teacher try become a scout leader, if you want to work as a programmer try find some online courses to learn so you don’t just walk around doing nothing since you need to learn the routine of working anyway
Talks
I know some bosses are bad but I am 100% sure that most people are good people so I guess it better to tell your boss you need something instead of keeping it a secret since why not get the help you can and need instead go home with pain every day because you needed a better mouse for the computer or similar. I am not saying you will get yes for everything but why not try.
Conclusion
Work can / will be hard but find something you like with your skill and interest. If you can’t find a job try give yourself some routine and get better at your skills
You but different 