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Being blunt

Today I wanna write about being blunt as often if you have Asperger’s you are often more blunt than an NT person because you do not have filters that explain you what is good or bad during an event or something. An example from my life was when my grandma had died and was in the hospital room for the dead, my aunt (child of my grandma) asked if we should sing a song and without think I replied “Are we here to rest the death or here to awake the death?” because in my family we are not very good at singing. My aunt knows me so nothing bad happen but it could have been bad if I did it to another death person’s family.

Why?

The first question I wanna ask is why I do it and to be honest it is because I do not think much about what I say sometimes and yes you are correct “You should just think before you speak” I can do that but if sometimes if I am listening to people talk I am not sure when it is my turn to talk so sometimes I am too slow or telling the person what I though of the things we talked about if more than one person. Being blunt also means I am very honest about things.

How?

The second question is how I do it and I do it because I feel there is no reason to sugarcoat it like NT’s do so the speech “If you want to know the truth ask a drunk or a baby” also means me even I am 34 years old and not drunk very often (last time was 14 years ago, but last alcohol was in July having an Aperol Spritz in Nice)

What?

The last question I want to ask is what can you do and guess if you want to help me then maybe we should all speak more clear about things and if you talk to me and other people on the same time, make room for me to speak.

Conclusion

Being blunt in my mind is better than the sugarcoating NT does because it leaves to so many miss understandings

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Tiimo – a great app

Today I wanted to write about being blunt but my mind was not in mood for that or ready, I am not sure so I decide I wanted to write about Tiimo instead which is a great app that really helps me these day even it might seem like a simple calendar. But to be honest I feel like my mind does not want to write a post at all so if it feels forced then it is but I really wanna get back to posting at least once a week again. Anyway let get started.

Tiimo App icon

Tiimo

Tiimo is a calendar app which is made in Copenhagen, Denmark (My home country) and it really sound like a cool company to work for but that is not the point today, sorry. Tiimo requires you to sign up by e-mail and looks like you need to pay for it but it is worth every penny to me. You also get some questions about how you are as person.

Calendar

When you open the app you can sync your calendar to the app but I have decide to use Tiimo 100% so everything is inside my Tiimo and I sync to my iPad as well. I wish it had a way to watch it online while I was at work or somewhere else I needed it without my phone.

Other than that there is a menu in the bottom with following options: “Right now”, “My Day”, “Explore” and “Me”. The pictures you see below is from my calendar as I am not affair to show it

Right now

Right now

As you can see then my “Right now” says I am doing WordPress at the moment and yeah as I am writing this post I was doing WordPress. I do not remember the standard settings but I have told mine to tell me when an event starts like WordPress and tell me when there is 5mins left of the event. I am ok, with keeping the time I just find it more easy to know when to do what. As you also can see I have added to task and once I have completed the tasks I can complete it them and complete the event

My Day

My day

My day as you can see is divide into blocks and I was lazy to get out of bed to day so I changed my day program so my morning stuff started at 11.30am instead of normal 6.00am. Normally I am also cleaning my apartment today but since I was lazy I will do it Saturday instead. I need to do the dishes no matter what so they have been done.

Explore

Explore

I am not using this Explore much but is a way to get ideas of what to do in life for those in need of help with that. I have always used calendar since I got a phone for that so I know pretty much what I wanna do so I am just creating them myself.

Me

Me

This is where the settings and help is. They also have a suggestion service and the only thing I feel missing is making events last longer than 1 day. I am a scout and sometimes I am going on scout camp for a weekend or such and then it could be nice to add it for more days at once.

Conclusion

If you need help with managing your time and is having a hard time focusing on your plans or have a hard time returning from focus I will highly recommend this app.

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Please stand by

Hahahaha sorry, I could not resist to make a joke by writing please stand by because of today’s subject is “Please stand by” the movie from 2017 about a girl who has autism and is living in a home for people with special needs who goes on a trip across USA. I will talk about the movie and my own experiences related to that so bewared there will be spoilers.

Subject one: Living in special needs home

This subject I am not having much feelings about since I have only with my parents and on my own in apartment with my brother for a while but now I am alone again. But I have been studying in a special school because of my Asperger’s and we of course had our own needs during that period as well. I was more ready for school than many of my fellow students as I had been in high school while many others had a rough school life. Of course my life have been rough with bullies and such but that is another story. It was a good time and it helped me get the job I still have which makes me jump to subject two.

Subject two: Having a job

This one I have more connection to that subject one. I understand it sometime can be hard to find a job you like and even harder when you have autism or Asperger’s so it is understandable that she can hate her job without finding a new one. I, however, like my job very much. I would never be able to be a sales person like her as it requires to much social of me but I would also have problems saying with a certain voice when trying to sell something or talk about something. I still have bad memories from kindergarten teacher work practice where a person complained that I sounded negative when it was a joy of coming to work.

Subject three: Interests

In the movie the girl is a Star Trek and writer in her free time which really connects to me as I am a writer myself and I love science fiction which I know Star Trek is part of just never seen it much. I know it is a side node but in case you are interesting in my novels and such jump over here now. I understand it can be frustrating not to do things you like just because a person tell you no.

Subject four: Travel

In the movie the entire movie is about the girl traveling from one part of USA to another because she has to deliver her manuscript at a competition. She of course has problems because of she does not explore the world much and the home she lives in have made rules for her. I know I have a protective mom but still I have managed to be on several trips on my own. I have even been as far as Japan, I live in Denmark, on my own without guides or anything.

Subject five: Taken advantaged of me

I do not feel like I have been taken advantage of before (Maybe some people would say otherwise) but I am naive so I do not think it won’t happen even I block everyone who ask about money for bitcoin and the like. In the movie she get robbed while having fun with a kid and I am sure that would happen for me as well as sometimes I am not the best at keep focused.

Subject six: Family

I can understand why some people might be scared of a person does something unexpected and make them worried about what could happen to small kids and so on. My family never did anything special to me since I am not have episodes like in the movie.

Conclusion

I felt I really connected to this movie even that we have our differences and if you have watch Adam from 2009 then this another great movie about Asperger’s and autism.