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10 things I hate as an Aspie

Today Ria gave me the idea to publish 10 things I hate as an Aspie and I have decide not to make them order as I do not feel they have an order except for the first one

  • I hate or rather feel hurt that some people would rather have an chance that their kids died than having Asperger’s/ autism because they have the idea that vaccines gives it when it certainly does not
  • I hate that some people sees us as a difficult group people just because a few of us is need more help than what a normal person does
  • I hate that some people sees us as one type of people and do not understand that we are just as different as you and your sister or brother.
  • I hate that some people believes we fake it just to get attention and extra stuff like money and let me answer you right away the last thing I want is attention, I hate to be in the spotlight so if I could be normal or at least avoid people attention because of my different ways of acting I would love it.
  • I hate I was bullied as a child and that no one tried to help me or at least explained to me it was bad so I did not do it myself
  • I hate that people expect me to be around people all the time to be happy, I do not mind to be at home or go for a holiday on my own.
  • I hate discussions because I might see things a bit black and white even I know the world is not
  • I hate phone calls as they are unexpected and I fear that I am disturbing the person in the other end as I cannot see what they are doing
  • I hate that people expect me to remember their names or known their age as my memory do not remember names it does not use often and as for age, I cannot see it other than you are a child, young or old so please stop make me guess
  • I hate that people gets annoyed on me for being blunt or not sounding happy or sad enough at the right time.
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Asperger’s and special interests

Today I would like to tell you about special interests which is a thing, people with Asperger’s often have. It might sound like having normal interest in things but in my opinion I would say it is not similar so I have made a little comparing here before I will talk about it. I am not sure if all Asperger’s will agree with me but like I said it is my opinion and feeling about it. For the record at the moment and for a long time my special interest has been China.

No.NT interestAsperger’s “Special” interest
1.Can learn new things about itOften learns something and then does not care if right or wrong
2.Can talk about other thingsReally wants to talk about it and often cannot stop
3.Can have more than one interestOften only one at the time but can change over time
4.Can ‘snap out’ of itSometimes we get so focused we forget time and place
5.Covers a ‘whole’ areaCan be very specific

Lets start with number 1. row. I often feel that if I have learned something in my special interest I cannot just change the ‘facts’ about it even that something new tells me otherwise but I have had different subjects as special interest over the years so is now more open to new facts and it does not ruin my mood or other things about the subject. I feel the 2. row gives itself meaning but to clear up any miss understanding I feel if I get started on my favorite subject it is sometimes hard for me to stop again and together with 4. I feel it is often hard to not focus on even we might be hungry and everything. Row 3. first of all it is not entire clear but I feel Asperger’s can have interests which are not special interest like NT’s but I feel it is needed to say that it is not the same. As like I already said, it is a bit more than just being interested. As for row 5 it means that if a NT is interested in cars then maybe the Asperger’s special interest version can be that he like a certain brand or maybe even deeper a certain car part like the breaks. It is a bit like watching a movie, Asperger’s see the details but NT see the whole movie.

As you can see it can be very different and of course I am not saying that NT’s cannot be really interested in a certain subject as well.

Story time

To end this post I would like to tell a short story about my special interest back when I did not know I had Asperger’s or knew about special interest for that matter. The story starts in primary school in 5. grade. My danish language teacher at the time presented me for the idea which was a booklet where you was allowed to write down everything you wanted from plant to the animal kingdom and everything else. My special interest back then was space so wrote a lot about it, actually I wrote so much that my danish teacher wanted me to write something else so she banned me from writing it. But since I was so interested in it I could not just stop myself from writing more but I was not stupid as I did not want her to punish me, so I created some pages I called the ‘naughty’ pages and inside them I wrote everything I wanted about space that I wanted. Time went on and one day my teacher of course caught me but because of my funny work-around she could not stop laughing even she wanted to be a bit angry at me and instead she gave up and allowed me to write even more about space.

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Questions from Ria Part 1

Here are some questions that Ria (Neurotypical) wants me Jesper (Asperger’s) to answer, maybe more will come.

1. What makes you feel hard to interact with neurotypical?

Answer: I often find it hard to know what the person want from me fx if a person is hurt sometimes I need to know if they just want the bandage or if they want a hug instead if that sense. (I know now but it was the only example I could think of) I also find it hard when no subject is given from the start.

1.1 Why?

Answer: I do no know why.

2. If you can reborn, you choose to still have aspergers or not?

Answer: Yes.

2.1 Why?

Answer: Because Asperger’s is how I am and I am sure that many of the things I have done I would not have done if I did not have Asperger’s.

3. Do you think your family fully support you as family member that has Asperger?

Answer: Yes I feel like they all support me.

3.1 How do they help n support you?

Answer: Help me with things I need help with, cannot come closer to that… maybe answering my stupid questions.

3.2 Is there any problems happen in family because of your Asperger?

Answer: Not that I know of.

3.3 Do your parents treat you differently?

Answer: Not that I know of, but I think they sometimes blame themselves a bit about that they did not noticed I was getting bullied and such before it was too late.

4. What you wish from neurotypical to understand about you as an aspie?

Answer: That we are not rude on purpose, sometimes we just speak the thing we find most obvious in the situation.

5. Do you want a cure?

Answer: Nope.

5.1 Why?

Answer: Because Asperger’s is how I am and I am sure that many of the things I have done I would not have done if I did not have Asperger’s plus I do not hurt anyone so why change me.